Your Goals Are Hampering Your Success
“The secret of man’s being is not only to live but to have something to live for.”
Values represent what you consider to be important in life, or in Dostoyevsky words, values are what you live for. If you’re struggling to be as successful as you’d like to be, there’s a great chance that a discrepancy exists between your goals and your values. If our goals are antithetical to our values, success is all but impossible. All pieces must fit the puzzle. If a mismatch exists, something has to give.
Being in sync with your values will help you understand what really matters to you, help you withstand the inevitable ups-and-down you’ll experience on your journey. So if you’re forever coming up short when it comes to achieving your dreams, your values might be at odds with your goals.
Use these techniques to set goals that are in sync with your values:
List your current values. Most people have never given their values a second thought. This is a shame because a person’s values guide their thinking, decisions, and actions. They influence their goals and efforts, guiding people towards greater meaning and purpose, towards what they want to be doing with their lives.
Take 30 minutes and list your values. Put them in order of their priority to you. Here is sample: career, equality, achievement, family, health, autonomy, competency, loyalty, adventure, fame.
Ask yourself if your behavior is aligned with your values. If there’s a mismatch, what set of values would actually represent your behavior?
What are you trying to accomplish? What are your goals in life? What do you want to accomplish? Do you want to be wealthy? Get a new job? Climb Mt. Everest? Write a screenplay? Build a real estate empire? The first step to any great success is to identify your objectives.
How do your current values impact your goals? If your values and goals don’t match, the odds of success are dismal without something changing.
Your goal requires a lot of work, but leisure time is very important to you. It’s unlikely you’ll achieve your goal.
You value autonomy and your goal is to encourage your team to be autonomous, but yet you always tell your team what to do. The autonomy will never materialize.
You want that six-pack, but comfort is a high priority for you. It won’t happen.
What would be the perfect set of values to support your goals? Imagine you could build a person from scratch that would be perfect for accomplishing your goals. What values and qualities would they possess? How would you be different if you had these values?
Think about the people you know that have accomplished what you want to accomplish. How would you describe them?
How close can you come to matching those values? How well can you rearrange your values to match that ideal set of values? The closer you’re able to come, the greater the odds of your success.
Reinforce the values that matter. Imagine that your goal is to save $20,000 for a down payment on a home. Let’s suppose that you’ve determined that you need to be someone that values saving money over spending. How can you build this value in yourself and make it a part of you?
Prove to yourself that you’re that type of person: For example, pick up pennies you find on the ground and save them. Cut coupons. Find new ways of dealing with stress other than shopping. Save part of your income as soon as your paycheck hits your bank account.
When you keep proving to yourself over and over again that you possess a value, those actions will build and reinforce that value.
Are your goals and values a good match? It’s important that they are as you’ll have a higher sense of purpose, commitment, motivation, and enthusiasm. When a mismatch exists, if they are not in sync, it’s important to either alter your values or your goals. There’s only so much resistance a person can overcome. Success is much easier when your values and your intentions are highly compatible.